How we all deal with failure has a lot to do with whether we become successful or not. Some people are motivated if failure happens to them and manage to mobilise their anger and frustration to help get them out of it. They go on to become successful. Others simply collapse or give up feeling defeated.
Some can look at failure in a more detached way and see how the situation occurred in the first place. Sometimes this is not so easy as hindsight is cheap and doesn’t always give us the clarity we need.
Success and failure go hand in hand like profit and loss. There is an ebb and flow. Neither expenses should be looked at in a negative way -unless they are too high- nor failure, as there is certainly a lesson to be learned.
Perhaps you are in the wrong job, relationship, or situation. If we perceive failure with a certain finality that this is how our life will be, then it can take hold of our minds and we never get out of the feeling that failure is what we deserve.
Some drastic changes to our thought patterns need to happen.
You can say that you do not have a Winner’s Mind Set but really, this is not so, unless your Mind has become so stale with fixed attitudes that you actually “Will yourself” to continue failing as some do.
In this case you won’t even have read this far.
What you need is an acute awareness of the thoughts that continually run through your mind. You will even develop a sense of humour as you feel more detached from those sabotaging thoughts. With this sense of humour you will have the ability to turn the corner.
It really helps to be more watchful of your thought processes and less identified with those thoughts of failure. As you begin to have successes you will know that what you once called failure was a huge learning curve. Failure is only so bad when you feel in your guts that things will never be different.
This is the real pain-when you feel there is no hope.
Otherwise failure can never get you in a strangle hold; you will use it as fuel to keep going.
These words failure and success are only the way it seems, that the world judges us, that is by comparison to someone else who is thought to have “succeeded.”
The more we are impressed by success the more failure will impact on us, therefore, if you take a more balanced view, things can change sooner than you think and you will not be so severely impacted, mentally and emotionally.
Failure is simply another way of saying that your challenges have not yet quite been realised. When they are realised you are a success.
Find out what success means for you and rise to the challenge; whatever the outcome you will never be the loser.
Chris Borrett
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