Daniel Pink writes this in one of his blogs; he is the author of many books with a right hemisphere approach to love, life, business, success and laughter.
Here, he talks about a coach called Garret Kramer, who thinks that too much focus on goals thwarts high performance as I do. What is more, he said he coached his teams to love their opponents rather than hating them, a lesson many of us could learn in life. We could apply this to business, life and all our relationships.
Anyway the four attributes he lists below and I must say if ever there was a case for stillness and presence, this may well be it:
- They look to the state of mind of the athlete or individual in question, not his or her behaviour.
Poor performances or behavior are the result of an individual’s low mindset. Nothing more, nothing less. Rather than holding players or employees accountable to their actions (judging behaviour), the best leaders hold them—and themselves—accountable to recognizing the thoughts and feelings that accompany high states of mind, and only acting from this mental state. This type of coach distrusts his own thoughts from low moods and encourages his players to do the same.
- They understand that the spoken word is far less important than the level of psychological functioning from which the word is spoken.
Here’s a simple reminder. Words are merely an echo of a feeling. A coach might say to a player, “I was really proud of your effort tonight.” But if there is no feeling or passion behind the words, they might actually have a negative impact. Successful coaches take notice of their own level of functioning moment to moment. They know that positive words only originate from positive states of mind.
- They keep goal setting in perspective.
Successful coaches know that the more athletes focus on the ‘prize,” the more they thwart their own awareness, shrink their perceptual field, and limit the imaginative possibilities. These coaches understand that achieving goals does not elevate self-worth or happiness. Instead, they relish the journey—the relationships and experiences—as the path toward creating exactly what they want becomes clear.
- When in doubt—they turn to love.
Great coaches set guidelines and expectations based on one overriding principle: love for their players. They know, above all else, that love will always provide the answers to helping others—and to success.
Surely we can apply this to all our lives?
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Chris Borrett
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